Happiness Is Not a Feeling – It Is Doing ( 2/15/2014 by Ben C. Fletcher, D.Phil., Oxon )
Happy people view things differently to unhappy people. They are more positive, more solution focussed. They look at things in terms of gain rather than loss. More importantly, though, they have a distinctly different set of habits. The small things that happy people do, day to day, are subtly different to what unhappy people do.
Happiness is the consequence of what we do and how we behave. So when a person who is unhappy shifts their focus and does something different they help themselves to become happier. Trying to think yourself happier is difficult, happiness comes when you change what you do.
We tend to think of happiness as subjective well-being, with a set of emotions and feelings...And of course, if you ask someone if they are happy they will probably reflect on how they feel. An unhappy person will bring to mind their feelings of sadness, perhaps some negative emotions or absence of joy. And most would say they want to feel better.
It’s not easy, as any unhappy person will tell you, to think yourself happy. But you can boost your happiness by your actions. And you can sustain and nurture your happiness by what you do. Simply put, if you want to be happier you have to do something different – you have to do new things.
Ten Keys to Happier Living:
Giving – do things for others
Relating – connect with people
Exercising – taking care of your body
Appreciating – awareness of what you do and the world around you
Trying Out – doing new things
Direction – doing things towards a goal
Resilience – bouncing back after something negative
Emotion – being positive about what you do
Acceptance - that we all have faults and that things go wrong
Meaning – being part of something bigger
So the ‘feeling’ of happiness comes from ‘doing’. That means doing more of the things known to make people feel happy. It means training yourself to be happy with new behaviours, with changes in what you do.
2楼2013-10-22 17:18
2楼2013-10-22 17:18
