如果你想让色情远离你的家，你需要知道以下内容：
这个世界上没有所谓的“戒色药”来帮助你戒色，只有你真正下决心了，才可能彻底戒除。
然而，迈出断除色情的第一步是异常关键的。迈出了第一步，你才能有所收获，才有望得到彻底永久的解放。
如果你做了应该做的事情，那么内心自然会感到舒畅，从而可能就会坚持一生。一旦你打开了恢复的大门，那么就会尝到胜利的甜头，并逐渐步入正轨。
这些小胜利却意味着对你的家和生活习惯进行一个“不舒服”的重建。
落实以下四种方法，你就可以建立一道坚固的防线，将色情“拒之门外”：

1）让你的生活空间翻天覆地大改变，从床单到厨房到相框。
如果你像我一样，就会对于改变坏习惯感到无比灰心丧气，以至于把打翻桌子、乱扔东西。
然而这正是“按下开关”之事。
任何习惯和我们生活中一系列的小事都有千丝万缕的关系，这些事情兴许我们并没有察觉。譬如说：床单的颜色，厨房的食物，乃至相框的形状。它们是与罪恶、愤怒、压抑、萎靡以及各种熟悉的情绪有关联的，从而交织成了一条垃圾之路。你的头脑最终贮藏了这些表面上的感受，并习以为常。当你对它们开始了一个猛烈的大改变：停止了这些习惯并且戒除了色情！
即使是一个看起来很普通很正常的事情，如果与欲望有关联，那也会使故病复发！换句话说：就是连电脑的形状一样“简单无害”的事都会引发一大堆槽糕的行为。
重整家具、扔掉毯子、在笔记本上贴上贴纸、换一个更亮的灯、戒除大半夜吃零食，这些微不足道的行为都会带来奇迹。把抽屉里的袜子换成衬衫，把化妆品向后排！
它们看起来像是骗人的、不科学的，但当我第一次尝试之时，我真是无比惊讶：甚至我的其他习惯都改变了，无论是带牙线或是把笔记本带上床。我有一种在自己的家里做访客的感觉，这些在触发之后、行为之前额外的珍贵的时间，创造了一个必要的距离来使我摆脱冲动、阻止色情对我心灵的侵犯！

2）把自己与电子设备隔绝开来
可能你所有的欲望几乎都是“在线”爆发的。
这听起来很显然，但如果你真的能够用各种屏障来锁住你的上网通道，就可以获得足够的时间使欲望逐渐平息下来。
是的，欲望总会平息下来的。事实上，创造这些阻碍会导致对访问色情的厌恶，因为你把电脑与困难联系起来了。
我高中时有个又矮又瘦的朋友，大概和我的大腿一样重。无论何时他被欺负了，也无论批评轻重，他都会立刻放下一切并投入“战斗”。每次他都会输。但是没有人再会欺负他了，因为他不想陷入这样的麻烦。
这里例子看起来很愚蠢，但是我们为了恢复也必须戒除色情，投入斗争，以暴制暴。在电脑时代，锁住你的网络是不容易的。
把你的电脑放在走廊里或是把手机充电器放在卧室，显然是不方便的；在反黄软件过滤之时，无害的网站也受到了过滤。但是，我宁可受到无数限制，也不愿意让欲望以这种方式吞噬我的心灵。
使用我的电脑是困难的，但这个代价我愿意付出，哪怕是警惕一生。
（最后一段说的是监控软件，可以监督自己的孩子。这里暂时不译啦，想看的可以看原文哦^_^）

写作业去啦，明天继续更，翻译的不好勿喷啦o(∩_∩)o
原文链接：
https://www.xxxchurch.com/men/4-ways-to-prevent-porn-in-your-home.html

3)提供替代的选择
改变一个习惯最好的方式就是去做其他事情来取代它。
如果你的手可以做其他事，你就不会再陷入破戒的怪圈。几乎所有的关于戒除色情的文章都会建议替代的行为，譬如去体育场、嚼口香糖、养一只狗、写日记或是找朋友玩。如果你在家有许多选择，当欲望来袭时你就会陷入“短路”的境地。
回想一下破戒的过程：欲望爆发有许多原因——压力、焦虑、无聊、浑浑噩噩——而正是这些原因导致了压抑的精神急需释放。
面对色情与其他替代之事，如果你在选择后者之后能够嘉奖自己，无论是吃一块巧克力或是随便看一个小片段，你战胜恶习的可能都会大为提升。回报的力量是巨大的。很快，替代的选项便会成为唯一的选项，你将会彻底摒弃色情。

4）做好立刻走出家门的准备
最后，如果你真的“想”看色情的话，那么付诸行动是有可能的。
独自一人在与外界隔绝的家中，这太容易了。
你可以试试我做过多次的事：起身离开，正如圣经所说的那样“flee from sexual immorality”。字面意思就是：拿起你的衣服然后走出门外。（译者注：原文为That literally means grab up your robes andgo the other way.）
正如我所说的，欲望总是会平息下来的。一段长途步行将会熄灭**。
如果你一定要做的话，可以去跑步。
这没什么奇怪或不好意思的，跑步不仅可以使你充满必要的奖励机制内啡肽，而且可以使你处于所需要的境地：户外。
这将是内心的一个巨大胜利，它极具象征意义。
因为你真的不仅仅是驱逐色情于房室之外，而且是从心底灭除色情。有时这意味着走出家门，记住自己是谁以及明确自己可以从这场斗争中脱身，以解放作茧自缚已久的灵魂。

原文：
Four Ways To Prevent Porn in Your Home
If you want to keep porn out ofyour home, you need to know:
There’s not enough porn-proofingin the world to stop you unless you really want to quit porn.
But: the very act of taking afirst step to prevent porn can lead to momentum, which can lead to total,lasting freedom. Those first steps matter.
If you can do what you ought fora while, it can become what you want for life. Once you’re in the stream ofrecovery, it builds on itself until you’ve hit a sweet spot of small victoriesthat link to big ones.
It’s the initial smallervictories that require an uncomfortable re-structuring of your habits and yourhome.
Here are four ways to set upboundaries and prevent porn in your home.
1) Change up your whole livingspace, from bed sheets to pantry to picture frames.
If you’re like me, you’ve beenfrustrated enough at trying to break bad habits that you’ve almost flipped atable or thrown your things around.
It turns out: that might be thevery thing that flips the switch.
Any habit comes with a long listof associations that we hardly think about, from the color of your sheets tothe food in your pantry to the shape of your picture frames. These triggerscoincide with emotions like guilt or anger, stress or depression, along withhundreds of familiar patterns that weave into a path. Your brain eventuallystores these external visuals as part of a routine. When you make a drasticchange to these things: you interrupt that routine and prevent porn.
Even a visually neutral cuethat’s been associated with your addiction can trigger a relapse. In otherwords, something as plain and harmless as the shape of your computer can setoff a series of habitual behaviors.
Simple things like rearrangingyour furniture, throwing away your blankets, putting stickers on your laptop,getting a bright lamp, or giving up midnight snacks will do wonders. Switchyour sock drawer with your shirts or line up all your toiletries backwards.
This might sound like hocus-pocuspseudo-science, but the first time I tried this, I was surprised at how mucheven my other habits, like flossing or bringing a laptop to bed, had changed. Ihad the feeling of being a visitor in my own space, and the extra precious secondsbetween trigger and behavior created the necessary distance to shake myself outof the urge and prevent porn from invading my mind.
2) Keep your electronicsinsulated in boundary zones.
It’s likely that almost yourwhole addiction happens online.
This may sound very obvious: butif you’re able to lock your access by multiple barriers, it will slow you downenough until an urge can pass.
It’s likely that almost yourwhole addiction happens online.
And yes, the urge will alwayspass. In fact, creating these barriers causes an aversion to accessingpornography, because you’ll associate difficulty with your computer.
I had a friend once in highschool who was short, skinny, and probably weighed the size of my thigh.Whenever he was bullied, no matter how slight the comment, he would immediatelydrop everything and get into a fight. He lost, every single time. But the bullywould never pick on my friend again, because the bully just didn’t want thatsort of trouble.
This sounds like a silly example:But to prevent porn we have to be willing to fight ourselves for our recovery,to create the right kind of trouble to dispel the wrong kind of trouble. In acomputer age, it’s an inconvenience to lock up your access.
It’s annoying to put your laptopin the hallway or to keep your phone charger in the living room. It can feellimiting to get X3watch to block supposedly harmless websites. But really, Iwould rather have filtered access to a ton of websites than a single avenue tofeeding my addiction.
It’s difficult to use mycomputer: but that’s a cost I’m more than willing to pay, even with lifelongvigilance.
Another option for those of youwith kids is Circle. It’s a little device that sits in your house and controlsinternet access for your kids, making it a really handy gatekeeper for thoseimpressionable minds you’re raising.
3) Keep alternative options closeby.
The best way to break a habit isto replace it with something else.
If your hands can find somethingelse to do, you’ll break your familiar cycles. Nearly every article on fightingporn suggests alternative behaviors, from going to the gym to chewing gum togetting a dog to writing in a journal to calling a friend. If your home is fullof these options, you can short-circuit yourself every time the “urge” strikes.
The best way to break a habit isto replace it with something else.
Here’s how this works. When theurge happens, there are a host of reasons — stress, anxiety, boredom, a day notgoing your way — and this leads to pent-up energy that needs to be released.
If you can reward yourself afterchoosing the alternative, whether by eating a piece of chocolate or watching anextra episode of whatever show you’re currently binging on Netflix, you’llhugely increase your chance of breaking the old habit. The power of reward ishow the entire world was convinced by Claude Hopkins to brush their teeth.Soon, the “alternate options” can become the only options.
4) Be willing to leave your houseimmediately.
In the end, if you really want tolook at porn: you probably will.
In the closed safety of our home,especially alone, it’s just too easy.
You can try what I’ve done many,many times. You can get up and leave. You can, as the Bible says, flee fromsexual immorality. That literally means grab up your robes and go the otherway.
As I’ve said: The urge willalways pass. A long walk will knock out the urge.
If you must, go into a run.
There’s no shame in this. There’sno weirdness about it. Running will not only fill you up with the necessaryendorphins to reward you, but puts you where you need to be: out in the open.
That’s a big, symbolic win forhonesty.
Because really, you’re not justtrying to porn-proof your home. You’re trying to prevent porn in your heart.Sometimes that means stepping outside, to remember who you are, and that youcan leave this struggle behind.