I don’t know, I don’t know how long can you know that there aresomething bigger for you, and you ignore that. Don’t we do that? We tell ourselves what? I am gonna take a bigger picture in my life. I really well resess? my career, relationship…… When? Later. Right? We always do this. I just can’t because I am busy right now. and we get so wrapped up in the moment, and we make this promise to ourselves, later.
I pushed my school later, I pushed away accepting my life in biggest sense, I pushed that later. And when you push that way, you may push away evenmost important things. Look, I used to look my mother in the hospital, for 5hours. I got, I set with her all day. I used, you know. I was the one visit hermost, I got responsible for bringing her the strawberry milk shake in the café, or, you know the old dish, so we listen to the radio, and we song together. and I wash her hair with the radio clumps? of my mother’s head. Her hair will comes out within my hands.
Everybody looked somebody in disease? You know what I mean this? Thereare good days, and bad days. Then the bad days becomes more frequent. And when that became too painful, believe me, it did, I said that mom, you know what? I love you. I gonna go, I gonna hang out with my friends, I will be back later. AndI treated her like later, like I will get to that later too. I pushed her way so much that I never forget the last time I saw her was on Thanks Giving Day, she wouldn’t eat. You know the hospital gave her celebratory meal, she wouldeat it, because she had a source? in her mouth. When that is too much, I said to her, mom know what, I love you. I will be back later. I did not come back. She passed away a month later, and we buried her the day after Christmas.
We didn’t have money for a real funeral, so they donated the pine? Box,numbers on it, and it has words “head and feet”, and draw an arrow on the pine?box. I don’t know, have you ever had experience had impacted you so deeply that it changes the person that you are? You look to tell people about it, but sometimes words don’t do it. When I lost her, and I connected to thisexperience of thinking, because I was no more had a later. And yet here withthe pine box. And there was no later. I saw this opportunity, and I justrealized, you know what? Something in this makes me to realize and learn from. It didn’t come to me at first, at first, I just want to cry. And believe me, I did. And I miss her to the state like I am talking to you guys about it now, and I remember a dream I had about it last night and I keep her here.(指着心) But she also gave me a gift, and that gift is thereason I am here with you today.
I guess I swore I had later, and I pushed that out so much. Have youever heard a saying that a man can be he must be? (我最开始就是看到这句话的截图然后去找的这个视频。 人可以成为他必须成为的人) See, before she past away, I thought I had all the time in the world, then I went back to my neighborhood, I hang out with my friends, I thought life can be the same. But when she wasn’t there any more, this amazing thing happen to me, and transformed the person I am. I no longer have the tolerance to the stagnation in my life.
And I hang out with my friends who I love, but they were sitting there,ten or eleven street kids, friends, we all like pump? around, and hanging out together. and do you know what they were doing? After we buried my mom, theywere in the conversation of complaining. I came back, I buried my mom, and here are my friend Bob complaining his mom. Here is my other friend complaining about school. This person is complaining ……
You know they were complaining, and I sat down, and I realize theconversation I have created in my life, as much I knew I have to survive, the conversation in my life was, complaining. Like you get a friend, you call, and every time you call them, how are you today? 长叹气 I am in there?(听不清。) You are the friend and you sound like that. You wan to track? in with yourself. Because I sat in my friends’ couch, and I realize, they were complaining, complaining, and complaining.
And I sat down and said to myself, you know what? And I just stand upand look at my friends and said, guess what guys? I don’t know where I am sleeping tonight, maybe one of your houses, maybe outside. I don’t know where I gonna eat, I don’t have, I don’t have, I don’t have…… but I do have two hands, two feet, I had brain in my head, air in my lungs. And what do I really need? Like what else do you really need to begin today?
lead the life. You know you are lead, you know what you know what isin your heart. You know. And what more you need to change before you step into that? I stood up and I looked at them, and the next feeling which is the biggest resource in my life sense, gratitude. You can whether pick one thing in your life, either resetment? or gratitude. Get on the side, I promise you. I looked at that moment and I may not have my motherever again, but I have resources, I had myself, and I could go forward.